Have you ever been in a moment of complete overwhelm and genuinely believed — I have no one to call? And then later, when the panic settled, you realized you had a whole list of people who would have shown up for you in a heartbeat?

That’s not weakness. That’s what happens when your feelings take the wheel.

“Feelings can be liars. And in the moment, you really do believe yourself when you think you are completely alone.”

The Lie Loneliness Tells

Loneliness doesn’t just make you feel sad — it makes you feel invisible. And as Christian women, we know the truth: we are never truly alone. But knowing a thing and feeling a thing are two very different experiences. Pretending you’re fine because you know you shouldn’t feel lonely doesn’t make the loneliness go away. It just means you carry it alone.

Sometimes the most honest prayer you can pray is: God, I know you’re here. I just can’t feel it right now. That prayer is enough.

Why Your Brain Lies to You in a Crisis

On the Women Soaring Podcast, Alora described a moment of crisis where she genuinely believed she had no one — only to quickly remember she had a whole community who loved her. The problem wasn’t that she was alone. Loneliness had flooded her brain and blocked the truth she already knew.

In a crisis, feelings will tell you stories that simply aren’t true. And if you believe the story, you’ll suffer alone when you don’t have to.

The Practical Fix

Tayler’s solution is simple: a notes list in her phone called My People. Three to five names — her 2am friends — the ones she can actually call when everything falls apart. Not a long list. Just enough names to look at in a moment of panic and remember: I am not alone.

Because when feelings are lying to you at full volume, you need something concrete to hold onto.

What if Your List is Empty?

If you can’t think of a single name — that’s important information. Building real community takes vulnerability. It feels uncomfortable, especially for women who’ve spent years being the strong one. But you were never designed to do this alone. God put people in your life for you to reach out to. The question is whether you’ll let them in.

“We are not meant to do this life alone. God puts people in your life for you to reach out to.”

Open your phone. Start a note. Write down three names. Save it. And the next time loneliness tells you that you have no one — pull it up. Your feelings are loud. But they are not always telling the truth.

🎙️ Listen to the full conversation on the Women Soaring Podcast — Things Christian Women Don’t Say Out Loud, Episode 2. Find us on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube. Follow us @thewomensoaring on Social Media